Book Review - Click (George Fraser)

Click: The Ten Truths for Building Extraordinary Relationship (George Fraser) is a book about building good relationship with people.

In the book, George says that to have a perfect relationship, you would need the following, Chemistry, Fit and Timing. And he shares ten ways on how to improve these three areas to achieve the great relationships that we all desire. The popularity of social networks has shown human's deep desire for connections. This book serves to be the right supplement to help achieve this desire in the most comfortable and right way.

Some of the Truth that have impact me the most are Truth #3: Love Serve Give and Add Value First, Truth #5: Bless Them and Release Them and Truth #6: Trust First; Distrust must be Earned.

Truth #3: Love Serve Give and Add Value First

In life how many times have we wanted something real bad or grudge that someone did not give us something. We always want to take but never take time to think how we can give back to society. Common excuse is, when I have enough, I will give. But when is enough enough? "Add Value First" is a great principle to follow in my opinion as I have been trying to follow it whenever possible and have seen the results. You will be surprised that what you give out most of the time comes back in greater value to you. Of course I am not saying we do it for the greater value that we are going to receive later on because genuine giving is the one that will give you the greater value.

Truth #5: Bless Them and Release Them

We have seen in many newspaper report that someone has been with an abusive spouse for X number of years where X is a number that most people cannot fathom. Relationship takes two parties to form. Sometimes we genuinely want this relationship to carry on but if the other party do not seem to want it continue or has been doing things that hurts you. Sometime, it may be better to wish them well and let go the relationship. In the book, it says that letting go means to stop "warming" the relationship, just gradually reduce contacting the person and then just stop altogether. Letting go is always the hardest part that is why we try to ignore it but yes to have 'perfect' relationship in your life, we have to let go those relationship that are bad and the other party is not willing to mend it.

Truth #6: Trust First; Distrust must be Earned

How many times because of fear of being cheated, we have allowed ourselves to be restrained? Our potential not realised? Ask yourself this question. How many bad guys are there? How many good guys are there? If the bad guys are more than the good guys, chances are our prisons and rehabilitation centers might have been overcrowded by now. No right? I subscribe to Confucius's philosophy that all people are good by nature. Of course that does not mean that I let my guard down. I just trust them first and then just be wary when they touch certain trigger points. I feel in this way, my potential can be realised and I get to enjoy the relationship that I have.

This is a great book to have and I wish that all CEOs out there would read this book as well and use the Truths in the book to build a better working environment for all their staff. As for individuals, I strongly recommend that you grab the book and apply the principles in your life to achieve that beautiful network of relationship that I am sure you have deep desire for.